Dear Abby: Should I turn away new ‘friends’?

By Steve Outing

Dear Abby:
I have no shortage of (Facebook) friends, and new ones come in regularly. But some of the online invitations for friendship come from people I don’t know. Some are from folks in my field, so there’s some kinship and common bond even though we haven’t formally met. Some are from college students, studying the field that I’m in (new media, grassroots media). Some seem to have no connection to me whatsoever — so those get treated like spam and the invitations rejected.

But what’s the etiquette here? Should I “befriend” complete strangers if we’ve got something in common? Should I limit my Facebook friends to people I’ve met?

What to do, Abby? … Abby, are you out there? …

Author: Steve Outing Steve Outing is a Boulder, Colorado-based media futurist, digital-news innovator, consultant, journalist, and educator. ... Need assistance with media-company future strategy? Get in touch with Steve!

3 Responses to "Dear Abby: Should I turn away new ‘friends’?"

  1. Jade Walker
    Jade Walker 10 years ago .Reply

    Etiquette in this area varies. You’re not required to friend anyone, nor will you be shunned for denying access to your profile.

    Some people want a huge network of “friends” on social networks; it gives them a sense of status in the online world. Others, particularly journalists and authors, create huge friend lists in order to have access to a decent pool of sources.

    I tend to “friend” people I know, friends of friends and folks who share a common interest. The rest I reject without prejudice.

  2. Jade Walker
    Jade Walker 10 years ago .Reply

    Etiquette in this area varies. You're not required to friend anyone, nor will you be shunned for denying access to your profile. Some people want a huge network of "friends" on social networks; it gives them a sense of status in the online world. Others, particularly journalists and authors, create huge friend lists in order to have access to a decent pool of sources. I tend to "friend" people I know, friends of friends and folks who share a common interest. The rest I reject without prejudice.

  3. Jenn
    Jenn 9 years ago .Reply

    I got into the line around 10am and was out almost an hour later. When I arrived, the end was at 55th. When I left the end was at 55th. I agree with you, that there are a lot of thrifty people in Boulder who won\'t pay. I know I won\'t. I probably saved a bunch yesterday, as I had a few large printers and 21\" CRT monitors.

    I also agree with you that the temptation to just trash electronics rather than pay looms largely over our current system.

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